(Source: hellanne)
I’d try to explain that it’s not really negativity or sadness anymore, it’s more just this detached, meaningless fog where you can’t feel anything about anything — even the things you love, even fun things — and you’re horribly bored and lonely.
If you’re dating someone who is friends with your best friend it can be both a good and bad thing. It’s great that you all get along and can hang out, but it can be hard to navigate while respecting everyone’s boundaries. Follow these tips for keeping everyone happy and staying sane:
· Keep boundaries. It’s great that you’re all close to each other, but keep your relationship with your partner separate from your friendship with your friend. You can all hang out together but make sure to keep some distinction between your relationships with each of them.
· Have time together and alone with each of them. Make sure to have both group hangout time all together and alone time with both your partner and your friend. Just because you all know and love each other it doesn’t mean that you need to all be together all the time. It helps keep boundaries between each relationship if you spend alone time with each person.
· Use their connection for the positive. It’s a great resource that your best friend is friends with your partner. Use their knowledge in a positive way by finding out more about them and what they like.
No matter how much effort you put in, sometimes you just can’t get on board with the person that your friend is dating. Maybe they’re annoying, treat them badly or are just a bad person. Whatever the reason for your dislike, it can be tough on the friendship when you don’t approve of whom your friend is dating. Here are the Dos and Don’ts for navigating the situation and keeping your friendship in tact:
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Be supportive. Even if you don’t like their partner, your job is to be a good friend and support them when they need it. Through their relationship’s good times and bad, you should be supportive and happy for them, whether you like their partner or not.
Help them come to their own conclusions. If they’re having relationship troubles your job is not to go on and on about what a loser their partner is. Your job is to listen and get them to talk about their partner. If they truly are a loser your friend will see it on their own sooner or later. Let them come to that conclusion on their own.
Avoid the subject. If you really can’t be supportive or don’t have anything positive to say, then try to avoid talking about it. Stick to more neutral topics so as not to put a strain on your friendship.
