Do you always date the wrong type? Do you swear time and time again that you’ll pick better next time, only to keep dating the wrong guys/girls again? Here are 8 reasons why you might be choosing the wrong type:
1. You like having a project. For some people, the idea of choosing someone that needs saving is really appealing. You might get a thrill out of dating someone with a lot of baggage or who has a lot of problems because you want to be able to swoop in and help them turn their life around. This usually backfires when you aren’t able to save them unless they want to help themselves.
2. You’re bored. You might be looking for a little excitement in your life and purposely choose the wrong type to add some excitement. Even though the fights and stress that come from dating someone who is wrong for you don’t seem like a good thing, some people enjoy the break from being stuck in a rut.
3. You like the drama. Some people thrive on drama and passion. Sure, dating someone who isn’t right for you can mean a lot of arguing and fighting, but some people secretly need that in their lives. The idea of dating someone who they simply get along with can seem boring and totally unappealing to some.
4. You want to be a caregiver. If you always date people who need to be helped and looked after, maybe you just thrive on playing the role of the caregiver. You might just be looking for the sense of satisfaction you get from taking care of someone who needs you.
5. You aren’t really that serious about settling down. Maybe you’re not all that keen on meeting the right person and settling down into a committed relationship so you date the wrong type. If you are always with someone who is wrong for you, you’ll never have to worry about getting to the point of staying together for a long time and settling down.
6. You think this is as good as it gets. You might believe that good partners are scarce and that the types of guys/girls that you’re choosing are as good as it gets. You might not feel that you can meet anyone else that might be better for you.
7. You don’t believe that you deserve to be happy. If you have low self-esteem you might be unknowingly sabotaging yourself by dating the wrong types because you don’t believe that you deserve a happy and healthy relationship. Dating the wrong people serves as a self-fulfilling prophecy that just proves you right in your thinking.
8. You don’t notice good guys/girls. The nice, normal, kind partners may be right under your nose but we often don’t notice them. They don’t stand out as much as the jerks, the rebels and the drama queens, so we often end up dating those who get more attention and we simply don’t notice those who slip under the radar.